Cowboys Don’t Cry — But Jesus Did.

Hi, I’m Martin de Coning,

I created Anchor and Ember because most men are taught to hide their pain rather than heal it. This is a space to drop the mask, encounter God in the middle of your struggle, and walk the journey of brotherhood together. Read my story

Through this ministry, you are invited to:

  • Identify the Wounds: Explore how past hurts are shaping your present life.
  • Practice Honest Faith: Engage spiritual rhythms that bring your pain—not your “performance”—before God.
  • Join the Circle: Find strength in shared conversations and a brotherhood that has your back.

Start Here:

If you are new here, these three steps will help you begin exploring emotional and spiritual healing.

Featured resource: 10 Points on Loneliness

I write a variety of articles, small group studies, worksheets, journal prompts, and more. Check the About page for our Vision and Mission Statement.