
Hi, I’m Martin de Coning,
I created Anchor and Ember because most men are taught to hide their pain rather than heal it. This is a space to drop the mask, encounter God in the middle of your struggle, and walk the journey of brotherhood together. Read my story
Through this ministry, you are invited to:
- Identify the Wounds: Explore how past hurts are shaping your present life.
- Practice Honest Faith: Engage spiritual rhythms that bring your pain—not your “performance”—before God.
- Join the Circle: Find strength in shared conversations and a brotherhood that has your back.

Start Here:
If you are new here, these three steps will help you begin exploring emotional and spiritual healing.
- Step 1: Read Emotions are like a weather report
- Step 2: Join the Saturday Meeting
- Step 3: Send feedback, share your story or subscribe to our newsletter.
Featured resource: 10 Points on Loneliness
I write a variety of articles, small group studies, worksheets, journal prompts, and more. Check the About page for our Vision and Mission Statement.
